But as social mores evolved during the ‘60s and onward – largely in concert with the rise of feminism and the diminishing role of the church in public life – pre-marital sex started seeming like less of a horrifyingly bad idea and more of a fun time for all parties involved … and casual sex was born, so to speak.
What really kicked it into overdrive, however, were the popularization of cheap and reliable forms of birth control like condoms, hormonal birth control and IUDS, and the increasing role of the internet in our dating lives.
Now, not only can you have great sex without necessarily worrying about causing a pregnancy, you can also find someone to sleep with fairly easily using the internet. Without a widespread social taboo surrounding casual sex, you can make all that happen without worrying about what your friends will think, too.
For starters, you can, well, have sex without putting in a ton of effort. With sexual pleasure as your guide, you can have multiple partners as you can schedule, coming and going as you please. You’re not really bound by any of the rules or codes we associate with actual relationships.
On the flip side, that relative lawlessness can carry with it a bunch of drawbacks. Casual-ness can be difficult to maintain over a long period of time, and if one of the people starts developing romantic feelings during the course of a casual sex situation, that can be an enormously tricky thing to navigate.
At the end of the day, casual sex is what you make of it. If you’re not careful, you might make some horrible mistakes that end in heartbreak, STIs or unexpected pregnancies. …